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[personal profile] rebecky_mo much younger most of the guys at my job are than me. Of course, that doesn't always excuse immaturity, and boy, can they be immature asses at times.

Explanation time.

I was working Wednesday night, and one of my co-workers has a habit of asking questions that I call 'brain breakers'. It's normally impolite and/or meant to instigate ("ie: Do you think X is fat?"), as no matter what you answer, it's twisted into making you feel like you're being rude/wrong. Y'know, kinda in that Hannibal Lector way, minus the cannibalism and slurping. Normally I answer, but walk away when he's gets into obviously word twisting. Normally it makes me a little uncomfortable, but nothing that makes me want to react.

The question of the night on Wednesday?

"Do you think (enter co-worker's name here) is gay?"

From what I gleaned of the conversation before he asked me, he (or someone else) may or may not have asked this co-worker that to his face earlier. In the middle of his shift, when he can't just leave.

WHUT. Really?

It's been a long time since I wanted to punch a co-worker. And since I consider myself a pacifist, that takes a lot to make me want to hit someone.

Instead, all I said was "I think that it doesn't matter, and is none of our business."

Afterwards, what I realized what I SHOULD have said was "I think the question 'do you think X is gay?' has messed with more lives than anyone will ever know, and that you need to pick another topic for your jollies." I tend to think of this stuff after the fact, not during the moment.

While not a member of the LGBT community, this really offended me as a human being; I have both longtime friends and family who are LGBT, and I've heard stories about how trapped that very damn question had made them feel at more than one time in their lives.

Hell, even my straight friends have had problems after someone asking this question to/about them. If they're asked and they say no the 'wrong way', they're lying. If they say yes...

Rumors are so damn easy to start, even after high school.

UGH. Just...UGH.

Date: August 19th, 2011 02:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Well isn't that just freaking fantastic. Those kind of questions are ruder than all hell anyway, but to ask someone to their face if they're gay for no real reason is just fucking inappropriate. I mean, I really hate to make this comparison, but I work with special needs kids, and even they know to some degree that you don't ASK people that shit.

Date: August 19th, 2011 03:24 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I know, right? These guys are usually 3-5 years younger than me, but it feels like we're from completely different planets.

Am I weird? Is it because I grew up in a small city? Because guys supposedly mature slower than girls?

BULL. SHIT. It's called common fucking courtesy, and sometimes these guys just don't have it.

...Y'know, I think I just figured out why I don't date. Every guy I've had even remote attraction to opens their mouth and ruins it for me. All the good guys are 10 years older than me, and/or married.


Date: August 19th, 2011 12:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh God, I just deleted you last comment here by mistake. WHY DID YOU DO THAT BRAIN.

Clearly I didn't get enough sleep. Sorry C.A.!

Date: August 20th, 2011 01:37 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Your brain clearly doesn't love you.

It's all good. It happens. c:

Date: August 19th, 2011 04:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Just in response to above comments, decent guys do exist! I know because I dated one (it's just too bad I was never physically attracted to him one bit ~o~). But yeah he was a nerd and self-proclaimed male feminist (just no chemistry on my end).

Also we all make mistakes, sometimes based on lack of life experience, sometimes rising to meet the expectations of others, sometimes it's not thinking before we speak. But if this is a constant thing with some coworkers, they probably aren't reflecting on themselves enough or giving a lick about empathy for others. Hopefully they will grow up eventually.

Date: August 19th, 2011 12:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh I'm sure there's some outthere SOMEWHERE. I just haven't had them in my vicinity yet. -_-

Here's hoping these guys get a maturity shot, and soon.


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